Will I have to settle for something that will always feel less than?
In a little over a month, my family and I will be leaving London and moving to Seattle. For months I battled a sense of melancholy (otherwise known as quiet despair). I tried again and again to find a way to stay, but in the end, I just couldn’t make it work. Deep in my heart, I knew returning to the States was the right decision for our family.
I just wasn’t happy about it.
That’s when I realized I needed to let go. And it didn’t have to be as hard as I was making it.
Finding something you love is the hard part, but not for the reason we think. We tell ourselves that we’re searching for something unique, rare. It’s the needle in the haystack theory of love. The soul mate myth.
The reason it’s hard to find what you love is that there are simply so many possibilities.
The good part about finding something you love, even if it’s now over, is that you know it exists. And that means you have have a much better chance of finding it again.
The end is just a gateway to a new beginning.
I can’t say if Seattle will be the place that rivals London, although many people who know me have predicted I’ll like it there. But I do have a pretty good idea of what I’m looking for now. And that makes me pretty certain that the lifestyle to which I’ve become accustomed has more to do with my attitude and approach to life than where I live.
Learn more at: Letting Go, Even When You Don’t Want To