Everyone complains once in a while even when they‘re unaware about it. There are so many things happening that are probably beyond your scope of control.
You may feel overwhelmed at work; your favorite team might have lost a game or perhaps your desired candidate in an election did not emerge as the winner. The list of potential triggers is inexhaustible.
Without being aware, you may find yourself always looking forward to that therapeutic session where you empty your soul of all pet peeves to whoever cares to listen. Sometimes the listener may be your therapist, but in most cases, it is usually your friends, spouse or close family members.
The brain happens to be the most important organ of the human central nervous system. In addition to all psychomotor functions, this complex organ processes all emotions, reasoning as well as basically keeping people alive.
That is why a person would usually be pronounced clinically dead when there is no perceptible brain activity detected by EEG (Electroencephalography).
This is why it is important to examine how your day to day feelings function, such as how complaining affects the way the brain functions especially in the light of the adverse effects on your personality.
Over time, the brain codes this reaction as the default setting. Whenever confronted with a seemingly difficult situation the automatic response will be to hold it in and wait for a chance to complain later on. As a matter of fact, the adage about people who see a glass half empty instead of half full emanates from this phenomenon.
Your perspective to situations tends to give much credence to the negative side of things at the expense of the possibilities that may be realized if a little bit of optimism was given a chance. Unfortunately, the people who bear the brunt of your incessant complains are your loved ones.
The people who want to see you as a source of positivity, the ones who even if they tried, cannot reverse the situations that hurt you.
You are most likely here because you want to stop complaining. While it is easier said than done, there are a few adjustments you can make that will go a long way in not only toning down this form of expression but also making it effective whenever you have to use it.
Generally, this entails seeing the silver lining in every dark cloud. Try to look for the good side of every bad situation. They may be subliminal at best, but at least in any situation, when you start from a positive note you will find a way to sort out the not-so-good stuff.
Most of the times people complain, they don’t have a clear purpose on what they want to achieve. Always make it a point to figure out the solutions to the problem you’re complaining about beforehand
It makes it easier for you to overcome a problem when you know exactly what you’re complaining about. Identify the root cause of your problems, and you’ll be in a better place when sharing and receiving feedback on how to solve them.