When you grow up with a messed up childhood, you most likely have low self esteem, a horrible self image and you probably have respect and trust issues.
A difficult childhood can mess you up mentally and shape your life without you lifting a finger. The really screwed up part is you do not even realize it has happened.
Many, find years later, situations in their lives being directly tied to something that happened to them in their childhood.
So, how do we fix the problem. The best thing you can do for yourself is get a therapist. Therapy can do wonders for the troubled soul.
A therapist can guide you down the path of dealing with the past and releasing it from your life. Your ultimate goal in the process is to let it all go.
If you cannot afford a therapist, head over to your local library or book store. There are plenty of self help books on the market.