Do you tend to worry a little too much? Have you ever thought about what this means, the causes and the consequences, why this happens?
When we are down, we try to understand the situation that generates this kind of discomfort in order to find solutions and answers.
However, over the past 20 years, many studies have shown the opposite. Have you noticed that thinking too much has a lot of negative consequences: your mood worsens because it removes your most negative thoughts and feelings, so it does not help you find the solution to your problems but ends with the desire to try solve. Only a distorted and negative approach to life is obtained.
People who truly are happy have the ability to distract themselves and engage in enjoyable activities that move them away from these gloomy reflections. People who have trouble getting rid of unfavorable information are the most unfortunate because it depends on the negative interpretation given to them, almost any event can make you feel bad about yourself. Thinking too much about a problem can become a problem in itself
How to stop your mind from thinking too much?
It’s not an easy task, the ideal way is to not get started in the first place, because after it starts, you feel the urgent need to solve everything.
The first thing to do is to interrupt this: stop thinking too much! There are five effective strategies:
1 – Distract yourself
The activity you choose should be quite interesting. The best things are activities that make you happy, curious, calm, fun or proud.
2 – Technique for stopping thoughts
This is to say “enough”, to give you the order to stop when you discover that you have thought too much and stop immediately. You must realize that you have started to think too much and that you can help yourself with the emotions, these warning signs that will appear as a warning in an unpleasant way. Then you give yourself the instruction to stop and change the focus of attention based on what you are doing for that entertaining activity you are feeling.
3 – Take a certain amount of time
The third is to reserve thirty minutes a day for excessive reflection … yes, you will have a limited time per day to worry, but at a specific time, you will not be able to do it for the rest of the day. . If anxiety arises at a time that is not intended for you, you must postpone at the agreed time. Ideally, these thirty minutes are at a time of the day when you are neither worried nor sad. The most common thing is that when the time comes, you find it unnatural to force the thought or forget it directly.
4 – Talk to someone you trust
Someone who understands and trusts to express themselves and receive advice. This person must be able to think objectively and not make you feel worse. You can not abuse this strategy either, so as not to tire your friend.
5 – Write about your concerns
Writing will help you plan your ideas and find meaning in many of your thoughts.
On the other hand, it is essential that you begin to gradually solve the specific problems at your fingertips, but that you are operational as soon as possible. If you do not know how to do it, make a list of all the possible solutions and start to implement the ones that will convince you the best.
If you have doubts, think about how someone you admire would act. Do not wait for them to help you or solve the problem, take action now, because even the smallest step will help improve your mood and confidence.
And think about this worry for a second, will it weigh you down now? In five years? Two? One? Answering these questions will help you clarify the actual importance.
If the answer is yes, you will need to focus on learning about the situation, growing as a person and persevering.
This is a really hard thing for most people to do. It seems that once we hit about 30, we’ve trained ourselves to think, think, think so much that we can’t get our minds to stop doing it.
This is especially hard when we want to sleep or rest or relax, or when something HORRIBLE that really upsets us has our attention and we can’t stop thinking about it.
It’s like a really annoying person that just won’t shut up about something you don’t want to hear anything about, but that person is stuck inside your own head.
So, in this lens, I am outlining two tricks that I have learned, that if you get really good at them, will enable you to shut your mind off, or at least think about things that feel better or in a way that doesn’t cause you so much anguish. (start practicing now, because you get better at it the more you do it!)
I’m assuming that distraction (taking a walk or watching TV) or something else less mild hasn’t worked, so that’s why we are pulling out the big guns here.
Don’t worry, it’s possible to learn to quiet your mind. If I can do it, anyone can 🙂