Adults are just as capable of bullying as any young child or teenager.
Indirect bullying is when they attempt to socially isolate the victim with gossip, criticizing them, name-calling, silent treatment, manipulation, lies and false rumors. Making people feel inferior and saying certain words to trigger a reaction.
Putting people down constantly and picking at their faults. Just remember that the intimidation treatment is not your fault.
You even may be starting to blame yourself for how this person has reacted towards you. However, this is NOT true!
EVERYONE is responsible for how they choose to treat others. Bullies feed off negative emotions, because deep down in some way they may feel inferior and Insecure. It’s only by making others feel bad that they can raise their self-esteem and make them feel good.
Envy…..sometimes those people may be the loudest, but you have to block them out like its nothing but jealousy.
Negative comments from others are their fears or insecurity being projected onto you. It took me a long time to learn this…
Don’t be a floormat
Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings, and emotions. You can tell who the strong people are as they are the ones building each other up instead of bringing each other down. The people who are trying to expose your weakness and may be scared of your strength.
Rudeness is the weak person intimation of strength. Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you. People can miss the message because they are too busy looking for your mistakes. Social media can bring out the ugly in people.
It is too easy to hide behind a screen and air their views while stomping on other people. They crave power, try to think they are in control, that they are better than you when they are not!
Life is too short to worry about what others say or think about you. They put others down in an attempt to gain attention, validation or happiness. Adult bullies don’t care who they hurt or how much. Their disregard for human suffering is rooting for incorrect thinking.
When you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won and all the fears you have overcome. I am thankful for the difficult people in my life. They have shown me exactly who I don’t want to be.
Controllers, abusers and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the problem is them. They will always say the problem is someone else. Don’t let anyone destroy your right to feel good about yourself.
Don’t get sucked into their low energy
Continue to do what you do. Take their constant criticisms and laugh, as you will thank them little-minded people as they will make you stronger than you have ever been.
I can…I will and watch me!!
Cyber-bullying takes place through email, instant messaging or phone texting. But to be fully satisfying to the bully there has to be an audience.
In this way the humiliation is public. The bully can then perform at their best or worst.
By Sarah Alderson
Visit Sarah’s page Autism Storms and Rainbows on Facebook.
After experiencing cyberbullying myself, I decided to turn things around into something positive. I wanted to share my latest video via Youtube. My Non-profit video is to help raise awareness of different types of cyberbullying and indirect bullying:
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