How many times have you been around those who complain just about everything and anything?
You know, people who make huge end of the world type of deals out of small and insignificant things.
Or those who speak of their illnesses, how bad the world is, how bad the economy is, the countless bad news showing up on television, gossiping about other people, and criticizing others?
They always seem to focus on the negative side of every single little thing. Nothing is sadder than being unhappy all the time.
The reality is that you have no control over how other people should be, it is their free-will after all to be whomever and however, they want to be like.
For this same reason, you are not forcing yourself to be around people that simply make you uncomfortable and are especially energy draining individuals.
Sometimes you just have to “love them enough to let them go.”
Everything that you pay attention to and put your energy to always has an effect.
This effect can be productive and generally good for you or it could be the opposite, unproductive and draining.
The people you surround yourself with on a daily basis have a very strong influence and effect, especially in the long run.
The experiences you live with others have a “programmatic” effect that stays recorded within you and affects your own actions and thinking in a good or bad way.
If you associate with people that are generally negative as described previously, then you will most likely develop yourself with beliefs that are in a negative harmony with the “energy” you surround yourself with.
So pay attention to who you surround and interact with regularly, know that you have control over your own actions and can, therefore, chose to leave, terminate a relationship and simply move on.
It is good to be informed but an over-saturation of negative information whether it’s true or not, will only bring you to that level and ultimately stress the heck out of you.
Somewhere I heard that you become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so choose well who and how often you are going to spend all this time with.
In contrast, if you surround yourself with people who have a positive demeanor-those who motivate, encourage, and uplift you, you will notice the difference.
Feeling motivated, optimistic, energized is likely to lead to better experiences giving you the drive and courage to look at life from a different perspective.
This new perspective will be one where even in problems and adversity, there is always something to learn to help your new experiences down the road.
Remember that you alone have the power to choose who you surround yourself with.
Photo of friends credit: Luca Sartoni