Personal Development

When You Try to Control Everything You Enjoy Nothing

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We all like to be in control, at least from time to time. After all, it can be comforting to know where you’re going in life and how you’re going to get there.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t always work this way. Each day, you’re interacting with people who have different viewpoints than you.

And sometimes, circumstances in life force you to realize that you don’t always have control of what happens.

Trying to be too controlling can take a toll on every part of your life, and keeps you from enjoying your work and relationships.

Basically, when you try to control everything, you enjoy nothing.

Here are some helpful tips for learning how to let go and ease things out a little.

1. Focus On What’s Really Important

When you’re trying to control everything, chances are you’re only focused on being charge.

Think about what’s actually important in the situation.

If you’re planning an event for a loved one, the priority should be to make sure that the guest of honor is happy.

If you want everything in the house cleaned on your timeline and it’s making your family members feel pressured, pay attention.

Focus on getting the job done or making a loved one happy.

This will motivate you to do a good job without being so uptight.

2. Delegate Tasks

You can’t always do everything by yourself.

Sometimes, in order to get the job done, you’re going to have to delegate assignments to other people.

Don’t be afraid that they won’t do it “your way.”

Just focus on the fact that things are getting accomplished.

When you try to take on everything yourself, you’re going to be upset and resentful.

You can avoid those feelings by asking for help.

3. Give Up The Need to Be Right

Sometimes, we want to control things because we want to be right.

It can sometimes give you a sense of accomplishment (and superiority) to know that your idea was the best in a particular situation.

But when you’re trying to be successful in your professional and personal relationships, your goal shouldn’t be to be right.

You should focus on coming up with solutions that are best for everyone involved.

4. Stop Being a Control Freak Always Seeking Approval

Being a control freak is sometimes a matter of seeking approval.

You may feel that if you can manage a project at work or keep your home in pristine condition, your colleagues and loved ones will approve of you.

You’re good enough. Don’t seek validation from others. Learn when the take charge and when to be a part of a team.

5. Think About Everyone Involved

The next time you’re tempted to take control, think about the people it will affect.

Will this encourage harmony in your relationship?

Will it give you a better reputation at work?

Will it truly help you feel better about yourself?

Consider the weight of your actions before attempting to be in charge.

You may find that it’s better to bring your talents and intelligence to the table while learning from others to create a peaceful outcome.

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