There are things in life that cannot be performed perfectly and it is completely normal. You may strive to be the best and seek validation and approval from other people, but there are still some limitations that you need to be aware of. When you are doing things, you are faced with challenges that you are trying hard to overcome.
However, there are people who want an explanation for every single thing you are doing. There are times when you want to space out and be alone with yourself and it is okay. You don’t have to keep on explaining why you are doing things you are doing. There are instances when you just need to do your thing and if you want to succeed, you just have to focus on the things that really matter.
When you love yourself more, you don’t have to feel guilty about it. You can live your life the way you want so long as you are not hurting anyone.
1. Planning Every Date
We control freaks are definitely planners. We will construct every moment to our liking to ensure that nothing ever strays from our grasp. And while a romantic getaway with your partner to an unexplored city takes some planning, not everything does. In fact, most people out their actually enjoy some spontaneity in their relationship; after all, the feeling of being able to do something spur of the moment is kind of sexy. So try and relinquish some of that control when it comes to your date nights. Not only will it prevent you from feeling stressed when things don’t go to plan (because we’re going with the flow this time!), you may actually have more fun than you thought.
2. Dictating Who Your S.O. Can and Can’t See
This is a HUGE mistake that we controllers will make if we are feeling jealous. It’s easy to think that your S.O. won’t stray if they never see that person you deem to be a threat. But, if you actually tell them they can’t see them, guess what they’re going to want to do more than anything? See that person. Not only have you just turned someone who may have just been a friend into forbidden fruit, you are restricting the people that can be in your partner’s life. And they could definitely grow to resent you for it.
3. Obsessing Over Appearances
You may want to share the perfection of your relationship with the world on every social media platform imaginable, but you should probably consider scaling back. Being in a relationship is not all about how you two look together to the outside world. Don’t always strive to be “the couple that knows everything about love,” constantly posting instas of themselves gazing adoringly into each other’s eyes on the Brooklyn bridge. If your relationship is important to you, that’s all that matters. It’s not a big deal what everyone else in your network thinks.