Many have gone through the painful experience of loving someone only to be rejected, only to feel the sting that this type of hurt can project upon us. Life begins to seem worthless to the point of of falling deep into depression, frustration, and a state of very low self-esteem and unworthiness. But how much are you willing to deteriorate and beat yourself up for another person?
Sometimes there seems to be nothing that will return back our happiness, because we are so dependent and blind with love for another that we stop caring for ourselves, both mentally and even physically. It is a dark place to be, and one that we must make an effort to get out of before it consumes us.
Loving Ourselves First
It’s really easy to get bummed when someone you really like in that way doesn’t like you back in that way. You know what I’m talking about – you desire them and they think of you only as a friend. Yeah – the friend zone. It happens to the best of us, guys and girls. And, not only that, we are also perpetrators of putting people who like us in the friend zone. It’s a two-way street.
As we dance, the key is to remember who you are. Unrequited love from someone can be a bummer for sure, but I don’t think that actually exists. Why? It’s not because I have never been the recipient of unrequited love; quite the contrary – it’s familiar territory (being on both sides, actually).
When we forget to Love Ourselves, when we forget The Uni-verse is on our side and wants us to thrive, when we forget that we are co-creators of our lives with The Uni-verse, then it’s easy to feel unrequited love and have it really affect you. But, I believe that the unrequited love we are feeling isn’t from the other person who we desire – it’s actually from ourselves.
When we love ourselves, we remember that rejection is protection. When we love ourselves, we are careful with whom we give our hearts to. When we love ourselves, we see every event of our lives as lessons and know that there are no shortages in The Uni-verse. We know that if it doesn’t work out with that someone you had your eye on, or that job you really wanted, something greater is on the way.
When we love ourselves and are filled with this love, it’s nearly impossible to feel unrequited love from someone else. It’s only when we have given that person power over our lives and control over our emotional well-being that we can feel unrequited love from them. Feeling unrequited love from someone is a symptom of low self-esteem and a misalignment with your power.