When we learn to love ourselves, the contradictions should disappear because instead of looking for external advise, we use our inner thoughts and feelings as guides and these should lead us to act accordingly.
We become self-respectful and therefore the chances for self abuse and self-deprecation are likely to disappear.
Once we find unconditional love for who we are, we are closer to be able to love others unconditionally.
All major changes in our lives start within ourselves, learning to love ourselves and develop introspectively are the key to creating change in your external reality.
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