The idea of being all alone can be terrifying, especially if you’ve been in a stable relationship for a long time. However, it isn’t that bad the way people make it to be. On the contrary, when you spend time with yourself, you discover new things about yourself that you never knew about.
Many people associate spending time by themselves with boredom, depression, or anti-social personality. You’ve probably been called a loner and shunned by your friends at some point in your life for trying to avoid the wrong company. By wrong company here I mean people you don’t share the same principles or values with; people who influence your life negatively and make you very unhappy.
You deserve only the best, and therefore, every relationship you’re involved in, should make you happy and bring out the best in you. If it doesn’t, you’re probably wasting your precious time and energy with the wrong people.
Unfortunately, this is what most people do – they knowingly stay in unhealthy relationships and friendships because they can’t imagine being all alone, or they probably fear being looked down on by their loved ones.
So, how do you know you’re keeping the wrong company in your life? Here are some warning signs to look out for:
- Their negative attitude is rubbing off on you.
- They discredit your abilities and dreams.
- They only spend time with you when it is convenient for them.
- They have lied to you several times.
- They’re extremely jealous of what you have.
- You feel unhappy, uncomfortable, and trapped when you’re with them.
- They’re trying to change who you are
- They hold grudges against you.
If what you’ve just read describe some people in your life currently, it is time to show them the door. Why? Because the people you spend most of your time with can influence your life for the better or for the worse. So, you must be extremely careful with the kind of people you allow into your life.
It is far much better to be without friends at all than to keep people who have a bad character in your life. If at this point, you still dread spending quality time with yourself, maybe the following reasons will make you change your mind:
“Me time” allows you to grow into a better person. It gives you the time to meditate, pray, write, read, play, heal, love, and chat the direction you want your life to take. The skills you’ve acquired during this time can significantly improve your life if you put them to good use.
Instead of wasting your time with the wrong people who don’t deserve you, it’s better to spend that time with yourself. Relax and get to know more about yourself. I’m sure in due time, you’ll not only be able to enjoy your own company, but you’ll also discover qualities you never knew you had.
Many of us keep the wrong company, turn to substance abuse or shopping therapy in order to hide from our true ourselves. Taking time off to be alone can help you discover who you really are, and as you do so, you’ll be able to accept yourself just the way you are.
At the end of the day, you’re the ultimate boss of your own life. You may meet different people in the course of your life, but it is up to you to decide who stays and who goes. Spending a bit of time by yourself isn’t that bad if you’ve realized that you’ve been keeping the wrong company. Just be yourself; it is only a matter of time before the right people come along.