How To Deal With Depression When Alone

Depression is something that hits all of us at one point or another. Things in life seem to go well for a while and then depression hits us all of a sudden with no warning. Things go downhill pretty soon after that.

Depression is one of the hardest experiences to deal with. I know because I was there some time ago and know all the things it causes. A lot of times not only does it affect us directly but starts to spread out into the people we love most.

It starts to affect our relationships, our workplace, our mood, level of motivation, and even our health.

There are times where practical advice offers little help and this is because the level of depression has hit a deeper level that starts to affect our spirit. You can often see this when you no longer have the motivation to continue, you no longer have the motivation to do almost anything. Life seems pointless, unfair and it all seems more like the world is always out to get you.

Just a quick disclaimer. I am not a professional and therefore cannot give professional advice. But I am passionate when it comes to these issues and enjoy trying to find solutions to different problems and challenges. Often times it is not giving people the actual solutions that help, but inspiring them to find their own solutions–that is a perfect example of the saying:

“Give a man a fish and you will feed him for a day, but teach a man how to fish and you will feed him for the rest of his life.”

If you feel you are at this point, let me offer you another perspective. Everything in life has many angles and therefore many different perspectives. If you continue to look at life from the same angle or perspective you have been looking at it, then don’t expect much to change. Often times nothing will ever change if you keep doing the same things.

I want you to try something different. Let’s forget for a moment all you have been experiencing. But before you do that, let’s just go over and focus for a moment on some of the things you have been experiencing one last time:

You are dealing with some health challenges that make it more difficult to go about your daily life.
People at work talk behind your back, often act rudely towards you for no apparent reason and even mistreat you.
You are a single mom and it’s hard already as it is to have to deal with your own personal issues, let alone all the struggles of being a mom that does not have the support of a partner.

Regardless of what your situation of beliefs are up to this point there are many things you can do to change this, but there is one that helped me get out of my depression and has helped many other people as well. Everyone has different situations, different challenges, and even unique experiences. But I strongly believe that this is a good way to get started and move yourself on to a better path.

Remember what I mentioned earlier about looking at life and all things with different angles and perspectives?

Well, here it goes…

Look at people and things not as if they were people and things, look at them as if they were “energy.”

And I am not talking about electricity, the closest way to describe it is “conscious living energy.” You can call it whatever you want.

It doesn’t matter if you consider yourself religious or scientific. Because if you think about it, that’s really what we are before we see ourselves as made of flesh and bone. We are light, energy, soul, spirit, or “energy” first.

When you start to see everything as energy, you will start to understand yourself better, and also the people and things you interact with on a daily basis.

People and things operate at different energy levels. When we are conscious that we are conscious of living beings, we realize that we can become the “driver” or “director” of our own energy.

In the context of this article, you cannot really control the “energy” or behavior of others towards you, you don’t know what is going on in their lives that makes them act rude or being mean. For all you know, they could be living a miserable life, are dealing with a sick loved one, their husbands or wives left them, or have another set of issues that puts them in a very low level of “positive energy” which makes them lash out or try to bully other people as their sad and only way to relieve some of the pain or difficulty they are going through themselves.

But you have more control your own energy.

One thing I found out is that this energy can spread. But it can go both ways, it can spread in a negative way or in a positive way.

But it all starts with you, and it begins in two places within the heart and the mind.

Why focus and intention matter

If you are always focusing on how bad everything and everyone is, guess what? You are generating more negative energy for yourself. Why? Because you are creating more fear, anger, uncertainty, pain, hurt, hate, disgust, resentment, and sadness in both, your mind and heart.

Who is the one that ends up feeling all of this? That’s right…You.

And because of this, you are more likely to continue to experience more of that in life.

So the practical advice here is don’t focus on the problems, focus on the solutions. Switch to paying more attention to the positive and less to the negative.

Remember everything that affects your mind and heart in a negative or positive way has an effect on you and the energy you generate. Everything you see, hear, taste, smell, touch can have an effect on you.

Dirty home vs clean home.
Depressing music vs inspiring music.
Talking to yourself about all your defects and mistakes vs being grateful that you have what you have and the wisdom you gained from mistakes and failures instead.
Watching horror movies vs inspiring movies

Anything you do that can put your mental state in a positive state of mind, do that. You have a choice. Here are some quick examples of things you can do:

Read motivational quotes daily
Express gratitude for another day and anything good in your life every morning as you wake up
Listen to inspirational and motivational videos on YouTube
Read uplifting, educational or inspiring articles on the internet

Anything that helps your personal growth can help

This is the other angle, the other perspective I’d like you to look at. Bad things happen every day, bad people everywhere. We all know that.

But whatever happened to the good?

Place more attention to the kind of energy you want to generate for yourself and you will soon see that your life will start to change in a good way as a result.

It is your choice to live life making things happen instead of living like a robot and simply letting things happen to you by default.