Human beings can be their own worst enemies, sometimes. They are too often their own demotivating force, talk themselves out of potentially beneficial opportunities in life, and often halt themselves from pursuing and reaching their aspirations and goals.
This is more evident by the unhealthy thoughts that are buried deep within us, which we rarely give a second thought to.
What makes it worse is that most people believe that these thoughts are normal, hence they never make an attempt to ever change them.
But this is not a the case for positively-oriented individuals. Oh no, these people see negativity more like a waste of energy and time when given a choice. And when there are instances where they don’t have much of a choice, then they prefer to see the positive side of things. They see some of these negative experiences and beliefs as a way to learn. Why is it?
When we create a habit of negative self-talk, it becomes very deeply ingrained within the depths of our minds to the point of simply adopting these thoughts as true.
Let’s look at these and see what some of the top 5 toxic beliefs most people think are normal are, and what a positive person is likely to discard or spin another direction right away…
1. It’s Too Late To Change
Life isn’t a straight line for you or anybody else. Like any ambitious person out there, you may have goals that you would love to achieve within a given time frame.
However, when you fail to do so, the pressure from your family, peers, and society can make you feel like a loser.
If you don’t have what the society considers the “right” relationship, job etc., by a certain age, you’ll definitely be broken inside, and easily believe that it’s too late to turn your life around.
However, this belief is not true. We’re all running our different races, so don’t compare your life with someone else. If you feel you need more time to put your life back on track, do so.
After all, it’s the ups and downs you face in life that makes you stronger and better and makes life more meaningful.
2. You Should Never Be Sad
There’s nothing constant in this life. That means you can never be absolutely happy even if you wanted to.
That’s because life is full highs and lows that will make your mood change depending on how you feel at any given time.
Don’t think there’s anything wrong with you when you find yourself sad sometimes.
After all, it’s the people who have gone through great sadness, who are best able to appreciate happiness after they heal emotionally.
Therefore, your focus should be to live a well-seasoned and complete life. That includes not just being happy but experiencing sadness and frustration as well.
If you’re able to overcome these latter points, you’ll grow stronger and become happier.
3. You Should Never Be Alone
The society sees loners as social misfits.
Because of this, it’s easy to be driven into the arms of people you know you don’t belong with, but, don’t.
Why? Because relationships should be chosen wisely.
You should have friends who appreciate you for who you truly are, and motivate you to become a better person.
If you can’t find that kind of relationship, feel free to be alone because there’s nothing wrong with it. A true relationship is worth waiting for.
4. What People Do To You Is Personal
A great deal of sadness and disappointments that people experience in life is because they take things too personally.
Whether you believe you’re amazing or not, people will always have their opinion about you.
However, what they say or do to you is often about them and not you.
So, learn to let go of other people’s opinion about you, and let your wisdom and intuition be your guide.
It’s healthier and much more productive that way.
5. Your Present Is Indicative Of Your Future
It’s all smiles and laughter for many people when everything is going as planned.
However, when things begin going south, they start thinking that their future will be exactly the same as their present.
If you don’t let go of your bad past experiences and feelings, you’re more likely to look at the future with a similar dirty lens.
You’ll keep on reliving and justifying a perception that should not have existed in the first place.
Now that you’re aware of these 5 toxic beliefs, the key is to overcome them before they start affecting your life negatively.
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