A lot of times when we are depressed, we start pretending everything is ok, and we create a false world of happiness around us trying to escape our hurt and pain, all these things that are eating at us inside our inner reality.
Perhaps one of the greatest challenges is that living in denial will only appear to help so much before we break down again. It is why it’s of large importance that we recognize some of the depressive states in our emotional life that are being suppressed in an attempt to escape them.
Knowing some of these will allow us to take responsibility, getting out of denial and seeking the help we really need to move forward with our lives.
Here are some of these things we tend to hide when we are in a depressive state.
If you, a friend or a loved one are going through some of these. It’s time to get help.
1. They may intentionally make efforts to appear OK and maybe even seem exponentially happy and upbeat.
The idea that those with depression all have one similarly dreary personality is false. Depression is more than just a mood. Those who live with depression have learned to alter their apparent moods, and may even be some of the most seemingly “happy” people that you know.
Personalities can vary. Often those with depression try to stick with the positive and public parts of their demeanor regardless of what they’re going through on the inside. No one wants to bring others down, even if that means hiding how he or she is truly feeling.
2.They may have trouble with abandonment.
Anyone who has experienced depression understands the burden it can be. It can also be a burden for those closest to them. Sometimes when you let someone in enough to see the struggles you have, they walk the other way.
Though it’s hard to blame these people for leaving, it creates a serious feeling of abandonment for those with depression. It forges a need for secrecy, out of fear of the recession of those they love.
There is nothing more heartbreaking than finding out your ugliest layer of self is too ugly for someone you love to handle.
3. They can be pros at “cover-up” stories.
This can be for anything from the cuts on their arms to the reason they skipped dinner. Unhappy people who live with different forms of depression experience various hardships that can at times impede the normalcy of their daily lives.
In these low instances, they know what to say to avoid attention from others to those displays of pain. Often they don’t want to recognize that they are hitting a low point either, so they know how to hide it.
4. They at some times will release subtle cries for help.
Even a person who knows how to live with the burden of their own mind can need help. Outcries from people you aren’t expecting are easily overlooked. Sometimes it isn’t safe for people to be on their own with their depression; as much as they say differently.
Sometimes they will reach out. Sometimes they will open up. These moments are the most crucial, because they are especially powerful. They are what builds a bridge between people who have different levels of emotions and mindsets.
They are what creates a closeness and trust among friends and lovers that isn’t always easy if some feel they have to camouflage their true selves.
5. They seek love and acceptance, as every person does.
Shielding the world from one’s personal demons is not done so for the sake of dishonesty. People who live with depression in a private and undisclosed way do so for protection. This is for the protection of their hearts.
This is for the protection of the people around them. This is for the protection of the success of their dreams. Some of those reading this may have felt an eerie connection to these habits. Whether you have been treated for depression, or you simply have treated yourself, you know how easy it is to feel alone.
I entitled this article about those with unseen depression, but the truth is that most depression goes unseen by our human nature. We live in a world that encourages us to hide what is dark and unpleasant. We don’t have to.
Learn more at: 11 Habits of People With Concealed Depression
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