Have you ever wondered why some people walk happily down the streets “without a care in the world,” while others are so consumed in their misery?
It has something to do with the choices they make in their daily lives.
Sure, circumstances can make life unhappy, but more often, people’s unhappiness comes from their own choices and actions.
A great part of your life’s day to day experiences comes from your own personal experience with the world as you were growing up. Throughout time you had people around you, events that directly or indirectly affected the depths of your mind.
Some of these experiences were signs of stress, sorrow, misery, fear, but others brought you optimism, happiness, and joy.
This led to your overall perception of how you see the world today. You take actions every day, you also make choices all the time.
And each choice when repeated becomes a habit.
These habits directly affect the quality of lives they live, especially their happiness.
Here are 5 habits of unhappy people, to help you avoid them and perhaps, inspire you to be happy…
1. Letting The Past Dictate Their Future
Another major cause of unhappiness in many people is living in their past.
If your past was riddled with bad experiences and negativity, there are high chances that your current personality mirrors this.
However, one thing is for sure; you can’t change the past, therefore, allowing yourself to be part of it, can only pull you down.
The past should be looked at as what it is, mere learning experiences. If you really think about it, whatever it is doesn’t exist anymore. Therefore there is no point dwelling in the past.
You only have today, so learn to let go of your bad past experiences and focus on your present life.
2. Holding Grudges
It’s very easy to allow yourself to hold a grudge against someone else.
After all, it’s only natural to feel angry and harbor ill feelings against the people who have wronged you.
However, what most people don’t realize is that holding grudges only destroys their own lives.
You end up being more hurt than the person you’re trying to get back at.
How do you let go of grudges?
Learn to forgive and forget the wrongs other people have done to you, accept them for who they are, and move on with your life.