You’ve probably noticed those people who walk around always with a smile on their face while there are also those other people who always have time to complain about something, blaming others for their misery.
People go through different experiences throughout their life, but much of what makes them unhappy often has to do with the program they have hardwired in their minds that really comes down to the way they think and act.
A great part of your life’s day to day experiences comes from your own personal experience with the world as you were growing up. Throughout the time, you had people around you, events that directly or indirectly affected the depths of your mind.
Some of these experiences were signs of stress, sorrow, misery, fear, but others brought you optimism, happiness, and joy.
This led to your overall perception of how you see the world today. You take action every day, and you also make choices all the time.
And each choice, when repeated, becomes a habit.
These habits directly affect the quality of the lives they live, especially their happiness.
Here are five habits of unhappy people, to help you avoid them and perhaps, inspire you to be happy…
1. Living in The Past and Allowing it to Define Their Future
Another major cause of unhappiness in many people is living in their past.
If your past was riddled with bad experiences and negativity, there are high chances that your current personality mirrors this.
However, one thing is for sure; you can’t change the past, therefore, allowing yourself to be part of it, can only pull you down.
The past should be looked at as what it is, mere learning experiences. If you really think about it, whatever it is doesn’t exist anymore. Therefore there is no point dwelling in the past.
You only have today, so learn to let go of your bad past experiences and focus on your present life.
2. Hold on to Past Grudges
It’s quite easy to let yourself hold a grudge against someone else.
After all, it’s only natural to feel angry and harbor ill feelings against the people who have wronged you.
However, what most people don’t realize is that holding grudges only destroys their own lives.
You end up being more hurt than the person you’re trying to get back at.
How do you let go of grudges?
Learn to forgive and forget the wrongs other people have done to you, accept them for who they are, and move on with your life.
3. Get Stuck in Negative Self-Talk
The way you speak to yourself shapes your self-image, either for better or for worse.
And as you may already know, self-worth is a key component to happiness.
It’s not easy to be happy when you have low self-image and esteem.
You have the ability to be your own best friend or your own worst enemy because whatever you believe yourself to be, it somehow manifests because you yourself are giving it the energy it needs to realize and materialize.
Instead of wasting precious time and energy on negative self-talk, realize when you make mistakes, accept and learn from them, and move on.
4. Living Beyond Their Means
We live in a materialistic world where we’re continuously bombarded with adverts of different products, all promising an easier and more fulfilling life.
Buying a new gadget certainly makes most people feel good, but what do you do if you don’t have enough money to spend?
Do you get yourself the latest SUV at the expense of your son’s college fees? I don’t think so.
It’s much better to involve yourself in other activities like sightseeing, exercise, etc. that will bring you the gratification, without getting into debt.
5. Always Looking for Things to be Perfect
Things don’t have to be perfect in order to find happiness, if you are always looking for the perfect chance, the perfect time, situation, place, etc. Chances are you will always continue to feel an empty void despite your superficial attempts to find that happiness.
The world is not perfect; all the challenges and difficult experiences we go through are simply part of life.
So, how do you overcome perfectionism? Know yourself and limits and set realistic goals that you can achieve.
Most importantly, forgive yourself for your mistakes and take the necessary steps to learn from them.
Now that you know these habits strive to keep them at bay by following the advice provided.
Above all, enjoy every second you have in this world; after all, it is short.
Every single one of these points is important to know in order to change our mindset and life for the better. The more knowledge and understanding that we have, however, increases our level of consciousness. This gives us the power to take control of our life. Through self-empowerment, we can begin to change our way of thinking and perceiving the world, manifesting in its better things and better experiences.
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