Negative thinking can darken your day, and even the future. The act of thinking on the negative doesn’t just predict how you’re likely to become depressed, but it can also lead to all types of illnesses later in life.
Negative thinking simply doesn’t help, and everyone knows this.
And therefore, if individuals know it doesn’t make things any better, why is it that they still hold on to it?
Why is it so hard to minimize negative thinking?
If you’re struggling to get negative thinking out of your mental house, these tips will help you make improvements on a daily basis.
Tips to overcome negative thinking:
1. Do not over-emphasize on the extremes
Life is never comprised of black and white stuff, this or that, or nothing at all. However, what negative thinking does is to concentrate on the extremes of the bad things already existing.
Rather than doing the best you can in the test, you’d just fail completely. Instead of being patient so the business can pick up, it should crash and burn, taking all your investment money to the drains.
As you can see from the two examples above, negative thinking has one aspect; it views the future in terms of dramatic failure or disaster.
It’s true that failures will be there. But it’s important to realize that life is not made up of all black or white. Instead, it’s a shed of grey.
Even though you cannot all of a sudden begin to concentrate on the positives alone, you can begin searching for the greys instead.
If you have an impending problem, say to yourself that you will expect great bits, good bits, and not-so-great bits. Never over-emphasize on the extremes alone.
2. Do not over-generalize
Most people who can’t get these thoughts out of their mind over-generalized failures. For instance, if their first date failed, they will conclude that nothing works for them in the dating scene.
If they failed a test, they say they are stupid, instead of saying they will try again the second and third time. If you over-generalize on failures, those thoughts will cloud your mind.
3. Focus on the positives too
If you concentrate on negative thinking alone, you won’t see any positive even when it happens. It’s like there’s a special screen inside your mind that filters positives, and lets negatives enter your mind instead.
To deal with this, get into the habit of seeing setbacks as temporary and specific, rather than things that are permanent. If you search for the negatives, you will find them. But again, if you stop for a minute and search for the positives, you’ll find them.
4. Stop enforcing rules in your life
If you fail a test, you say you’d have performed well if you were a bright student. If your spouse gets home late, you conclude they were seeing someone else.
If you want to make rules on how reality should be, you’ll be let down at all times.
5. Stop mind-reading
You cannot be relaxed with uncertainty when you mind-read. For example, if you text someone you’re dating and they took long to reply, you’ll conclude that they don’t like you. The problem with this is that you’ll believe in your own imagination, which is very false.
But on the other hand, if you’re positive and the person hasn’t replied, you’ll just wonder why they haven’t replied yet. You’ll not begin making conclusions.
You can begin experiencing change in your life by practicing these tips. Don’t be a slave of bad thoughts when you can do something about it and live life to the fullest.