There are things or people that annoy us because they don’t meet our expectations or they deviate from our moral standards. We become irritated if situations don’t go as planned. We feel frustrated when things go wrong. Unfortunately, there are things beyond our control. No matter how we try to be in control, things can just happen.
If you feel uptight because things just don’t seem to go your way, you won’t be able to enjoy life. You don’t know how to have fun and you live your life based on your own standards. You have to loosen up if you want to live your life to the fullest.
Here’s how you should loosen up:
Have a realistic idea of what to expect in social situations
There are lots of slightly irritating, but common and unavoidable, behaviors and events that come up in social situations. A friend may be unreliable about showing up to a get together.
Don’t take yourself too seriously
Uptight people often see themselves as important, refined, intelligent adults who are above the silliness normal folk engage in.
There’s nothing wrong with light, brainless fun
Uptight people often don’t have a very high opinion of anything entertaining, mindless, or pointless. They think it’s beneath them, and that they have to be serious all the time.
Don’t be too zealous about following the rules
Uptight people care a bit too much about obeying the rules, and they think other everyone else should too. They can be overly stringent about following them and can get really irritated out of principle when others inevitably don’t do everything they’re told.
Accept you can’t control everything
I don’t think this applies to everyone, but at the root of some people’s uptightness is a need to be in control and have everyone act the way they want them to. If you can let this need go, and just accept that people are often going to behave in a way you may not like or expect, it can do a lot to help you take on a more relaxed mentality.
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