Your perspective to situations tends to give much credence to the negative side of things at the expense of the possibilities that may be realized if a little bit of optimism was given a chance. Unfortunately, the people who bear the brunt of your incessant complains are your loved ones.
The people who want to see you as a source of positivity, the ones who even if they tried, cannot reverse the situations that hurt you.
You are most likely here because you want to stop complaining. While it is easier said than done, there are a few adjustments you can make that will go a long way in not only toning down this form of expression but also making it effective whenever you have to use it.
Embrace positivity: Generally, this entails seeing the silver lining in every dark cloud. Try to look for the good side of every bad situation. They may be subliminal at best, but at least in any situation, when you start from a positive note you will find a way to sort out the not-so-good stuff.
Be objective: Most of the times people complain, they don’t have a clear purpose on what they want to achieve. Always make it a point to figure out the solutions to the problem you’re complaining about beforehand
Be precise: It makes it easier for you to overcome a problem when you know exactly what you’re complaining about. Identify the root cause of your problems, and you’ll be in a better place when sharing and receiving feedback on how to solve them.